The Funny Thing About Being Busy November 05 2014

I don't like to glorify busy. But...

Not far into this crazy adventure of owning my own business I found myself putting "busy" on a pedestal. It meant I was legit. It meant I had business to tend to and no longer had time to sit around and eat grapes all day. Although it didn't mean that I had "made it," but it meant I was on my way. Busy was validation.


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Then something funny... but not so funny... happened. I realized people were afraid to send me business because I was "too busy!"  Which, as you can imagine, is exactly opposite of what I wanted.

So I had to change the way I looked at "busy." I had to change the way I dealt with "busy." I had to alter my vocabulary to only talk about "busy" in a positive way. If you know me, you know this was difficult. I wear my heart on my sleeve and my emotions on my face (well other than my "resting B***h-face," which I can't seem to escape). I'm not good at sugarcoating and I can't come up with fluff on the fly. So when someone asks me how I'm doing (you know, that quick and mindless question we ask everyone all the time, not really expecting the truth) and the truth is that I'm completely swamped. It takes every ounce of self-control for me to smile a believable smile and choke out, "I'm good! ...  Everything is great!" *twitch*twitch*

But the reason I write this post is because something else funny happened... 

When I've got down time, between projects or I'm ahead of the game, I have time to facebook, instagram, blog, plan, photograph, archive, market myself, etc, etc. And that's when people say to me, "Oh, I see you've been so busy!" To which, I smile and nod as I agree, "why yes, things have been moving right along!" 

The reality is, when you don't hear from me on the social media waves, I am buried in work. That's when there is no time for all the promoting and marketing that needs to happen, that's when I don't get to keep you updated about the fun projects that have recently wrapped or are in the works.

Anyway, I say all this as sort of an apology. This is obviously something that I need to work on. I have heard countless talks on time management and allocating time for blogging, posting and marketing. But darn it, I'm in business to design awesome invitations, so even if I block off that time to write a post or photograph some recent work, if design needs to be done, it always takes priority. 

But I want to be better. As I set out on this crazy trek of business-owner-ship almost 5 years ago, I had no idea what I was doing. I've learned through mistakes and hard lessons. I've had amazing help and support. But I'm still learning and evolving. I don't think I'll ever stop doing that. 

So the funny thing is... as soon as you stop saying your busy... and stop glorifying it, the stress of busy kind of melts away. And that's a beautiful thing.